When you dive into Adam Sandler’s filmography, you might expect outrageous comedy or some seriously impressive dramatic performances in movies like Punch Drunk Love, Uncut Gems, and Hustle. But in his latest Netflix flick, he’s taking a back seat on camera and playing the role of a beleaguered dad to his real-life daughters Sadie and Sunny Sandler. It’s a family affair, with Sandler’s real influence shining through as a producer. And let me tell you, he’s brought all the right creative elements to make this adaptation of Fiona Rosenbloom’s YA book an absolute delight.
This film doesn’t break any rules of the teen genre, but it does so in a modernized way that sets it apart for a new generation while also tugging at the heartstrings of their parents. Director Sammi Cohen wanted to create a movie for young Jews, just as she did with her first film, last year’s Crush, which was a hit among young gay people. And she, along with screenwriter Alison Peck, has succeeded admirably. This comedy not only immerses itself in the Jewish religion, but it does so through the wide-eyed world of 13-year-old girls, much like the successful coming-of-age story Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret earlier this year.
The story revolves around best friends Stacy Friedman (played by Sunny Sandler) and Lydia (played by Samantha Lorraine), who are eagerly anticipating their dream day, their Bat Mitzvah. As we witness their tight friendship unfold, we also experience all the preparation, angst, and excitement that come with this significant milestone in the life of a young Jewish girl. Stacy has a crush on the popular Andy Goldfarb, but an embarrassing incident involving her period leads her to swear off boys. Trouble brews when she discovers Lydia kissing Andy at a party, leading to a breaking point in their friendship. Stacy seeks revenge by sabotaging the Bat Mitzvah film she had promised to make for Lydia, resulting in chaos at both ceremonies.
Throughout the film, you can feel the influence of John Hughes, the master of coming-of-age movies in the ’80s and ’90s. There’s even a small homage to him during a visit to a movie theater, where a Hughes Festival is taking place. This film works so well because it captures the realities of the teen world and the TikTok generation. It’s a movie of its time, but it also taps into timeless themes of human behavior, jealousy, and emotions.
Sunny Sandler deserves huge credit for her performance as Stacy. She hits all the right notes and proves to be a natural in front of the camera. This is no mere case of nepotism; she truly shines in the role. Samantha Lorraine is equally impressive as Lydia, Stacy’s bestie. The chemistry between them feels genuine, as if they’ve been friends their whole lives. The casting here is excellent.
Adam Sandler himself plays a charming version of himself, complete with Hawaiian shirts and basketball shorts. He embodies the ideal dad, a little bewildered by raising teenage girls but up for the challenge. Idina Menzel, who previously starred in Uncut Gems, is perfectly cast as his wife, bringing warmth to the film. Sandler’s real-life wife Jackie also joins the cast as Lydia’s mother and delivers a solid performance. Sadie Sandler, Adam’s older daughter, has her moments as the older sister to Sunny, showcasing her comfort in front of the camera. Sarah Sherman, known for her work on SNL, brings an off-the-wall but endearing energy to her role as the rabbi guiding the 13-year-olds through this special time. And let’s not forget Dan Bulla as the guitar-playing cantor and Luis Guzman as Lydia’s grumpy father, who both provide laughs. Ido Mosseri nails the role of the Bat Mitzvah DJ, bringing the character to life with his loud and over-the-top personality.
If John Hughes were alive today, he would undoubtedly be smiling after watching You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah. And I guarantee you’ll be smiling too. This film captures the essence of the teen genre while adding its own unique twist. Kudos to Adam Sandler and the rest of the talented cast and crew for delivering a heartfelt and entertaining experience. Make sure to mark your calendars because this film will be streaming on Netflix starting August 25th.
Title: You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah
Distributor: Netflix
Release Date: August 25, 2023 (streaming)
Director: Sammi Cohen
Screenwriter: Alison Peck
Cast: Idina Menzel, Sunny Sandler, Sadie Sandler, Adam Sandler, Jackie Sandler, Ido Mosseri, Luis Guzman, Sarah Sherman, Dan Bulla, Dylan Hoffman, Samantha Lorraine
Rating: PG-13
Running time: 1 hr, 43 mins
